Is it okay to ask if you can bring a +1?
May 4th, 2010 | By Cherie | Category: Ask the Advisors, Wedding Etiquette
Photo Credit: Victor Sizemore
Today, a friend of mine asked me: “hey, is it okay to ask the bride/groom if I can bring a +1 to their wedding?”
I’m sure many of us have wondered about that. Is the invitation open to +1 or is it only for you? Is it proper wedding etiquette to ask if you can bring a +1?
Well in my opinion it all depends on certain situation.
Scenario 1: if the invitation states: ” __ of 1 will be attending” that is obvious that you can’t bring a +1. Therefore, I would not ask the bride / groom.
Scenario 2: if the invitation provides you a spot where you can insert the # of guests, or if it says “Name(s)_______ [followed by check boxes to attend or not]” then yes, I would ask the bride / groom if they’re okay with +1.
In most cases, the bride and groom should have make it clear as to whether you can bring a +1 or not. If they do allow +1, you’ll definitely see something like “___ of 2 will be attending” . Or it will address to you and your significant other.
It never hurt to ask, the worst thing that can happen is hearing a “no” as an answer; and do prepare for a “no” answer. Please keep in mind that 1 extra seating will cost them extra money. So if you do decide to ask the couple, ask them in a way where they won’t feel obligated to say “yes”.
And honestly, there’s nothing wrong with going to a wedding alone. Many times, I hear people dreading to go to wedding because they don’t have a date. And to me I don’t get it; I don’t understand why you must bring a date to a wedding. To me, if you go alone, you’ll have your other friends / coworkers to hang out with. Or maybe this will give you a chance to meet other single people!
Agree or Disagree? Feedbacks are welcome!!
